I heard a study on the radio today that the average adult hasn’t made a new friend in the past five years. American adults are more lonely than ever and aren’t sure how to make new friends. This made me sad to hear. It also made me grateful that I’ve been able to make so many new friends in the past five years. These aren’t people who I only see online, liking their posts. These are people I text, talk to on the phone, and even visit in person!
National Military Spouse Appreciation Day
I think this news hit me so hard because today is Military Spouse Appreciation Day. It’s a day set aside to recognize the sacrifices and commitment Military Spouses make for their soldiers and their country.
America’s military spouses are the backbone of the families who support our troops during mission, deployment, reintegration and reset. Military spouses are silent heroes who are essential to the strength of the nation, and they serve our country just like their loved ones.Source
In the past five years, I lived on two different Army posts. When we made our first move, I didn’t know anyone. I didn’t know anything about Army life or where to begin making friends. Luckily, with a little courage, I jumped in to my husband’s collegue’s family get togethers. I went to after work open PT where I met other spouses. I made an effort to invite spouses out for coffee and in turn, more seasoned spouses invited us out too. Before I knew it, I had a close-knit group of friends. I could turn to these people with my frustrations, happiness, or just to hang out for no reason.
As with the Army though, it was soon time to move again. My group of friends was about to be blown to the wind as we all PCSed across the country. Some of my friends headed out West, some across the ocean, some stayed behind. I found myself alone again. I was in a new place and my husband was in a new type of work environment. We no longer had the backup comradery that his residency afforded us.
Luckily, I was able to connect with someone from my previous post. We became closer friends and she introduced me to more people she met at our new post. I gathered my courage again and went to breakfast meetups organized by other spouses. Soon, my friendship tank was overflowing again. I know this group won’t be around forever. The Military unintentionally tears us apart but that doesn’t mean we have to let our friendships go with it.
As A.A. Milne, author of Winnie the Poo said, “How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.” Thankfully, we don’t have to say goodbye. We can say see you next time friend.